September Inspiration In the Midst of Grief

I’ve been listening to this song from Chris Tomlin since the early part of this month and it has been a blessing for me.

This month, I learned that two of my friends whom I began friendship when I was still based in Cebu had both succumbed to cancer. I felt really sad knowing about their deaths. Although both know and loved the Lord, I find myself affected by their deaths, knowing that I won’t be seeing them again until of course we meet on the other side of this life.

Their deaths made me nostalgic about my life, our lives in Cebu. The reality of their passing just really made me aware that I won’t be able to visit them again and reminisce and laugh about our times in Cebu together. Well, such is life.

Their deaths reminded me to live my life to the fullest, to be on point with God’s purposes for me.

Here is the Chris Tomlin song that has helped comfort my heart:

Don’t Hesitate to Seek for Help

I was recently invited to speak at an event for youth leaders and I became even more aware that sometimes people (not just the youth) hesitate and even neglect to seek help when they encounter problems in the following areas:

Depression. When the usual things that you enjoy in life loses meaning and you experience these symptoms for 2 weeks or more, then it’s time to seek help from a mental health professional. Depression is considered a top risk factor or the leading cause of suicide.

Even today, some still do not find it comfortable to seek help for depression. But help is available, one does not need to suffer depression alone and be defeated by it. When you think about it, when we suffer from other illnesses like diabetes we go to a doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment or medication. Depression needs to be viewed that way, so that it would ease the suffering for those who undergo it as well as their families.

Finances. I have heard several stories of people get into huge debts as well as those who fall into financial scams. I have observed that those who go into these huge debts seem to have failed to consider the repercussion of their financial decisions. Some suffer from impulse buying, some also have deeper personal or family issues that led them to such a financial mess.

Those who fall into these financial scams got hooked into a get-rich-quick mindset. All they could think about is just accumulating money, never mind even if they bend some rules in doing so.

If only those who got into this financial messes sought out the advice of a financial advisor or even from those of friends who are experienced in business and finance, then they and their families would not have to suffer from their flawed financial decisions. But I think that if a person is willing to rise back again from what may be a financial fall, there is hope. He or she can still turn around her situation with the help of others.

Legal Concerns. Unfortunately, we still live in an unjust world. And there are times when people take advantage you, harm you or injure you. These are the times when you may need to seek out the help of a legal professional for your protection and for you to access resources or receive compensation for any damage they have incurred on your property or on your person. You need people to be on your side, those who can understand you and speak for you, even fight for you when necessary. When you have suffered injury from the neglect of others, you may consult personal injury attorney Tampa.

When you suffer from depression or face financial and legal concerns, seek also the support from your family or friends or from your spiritual advisors. You are not meant to suffer alone in this life. And do not delay in seeking help. The longer you take in doing it, the more difficult it might become in solving it.

It’s okay to seek help. And when others seek your help and support, do what you also can and refer them to experts when needed.

Coping With Those Difficult Days

How do you cope with those difficult days?

Those days when you would rather stay in bed and cry. Those days when you question whether there are still good and happy times ahead of you.

I have experienced those difficult times, too. These are the things that help me cope:

  1. Making a list of things that I am grateful for. Doing this never fails to help dispel any negativity in my mind or pain in my heart. This helps me see that despite the “bad things” that may be plaguing me now, so many good things have happened as well. This creates a spark of hope in me. 
  2. Listening to a worship song. Somehow, listening to a worship song changes the environment around me and inside me 🙂  For maximum effect, if I may say so, I listen to a whole playlist of worship songs lasting to an hour or more.
  3. Talking it out with a friend. This is usually cathartic, given, of course, that the friend is someone who knows how to listen and help “process” what I am going through. We all need to have friends who can handle not only a happy and joyful us but also a burdened and broken us. 
  4.  Reading inspiring stories, the Bible. Stories of people who overcome adversities and challenges in life are very helpful during our own personal challenging times. Reading God’s promises in the Bible is hope-stirring 🙂
  5. Praying to God. Talking to God will have to be part of this list. After all, this life is our journey with Him. And He has given us both love and life (you and I are part of that world mentioned in John 3: 16 🙂 ).

We will have difficult days but they will not last forever. There’s a season and time for everything — the season of hardship will eventually give way to one of singing again (Song of Songs 2:11-13).